Aalborg_Mozman
New Member
I felt like getting this off my chest, and I ended up doing it here, it seems like the least worst place to do so.
I’ll run-down my life situation, and why the above shouldn't be a problem.
I'm late 20's, recently married my girlfriend of over the last ten years. We have a baby daughter who in every way is a massive blessing.
I've got a decent education and a decent job. We live in a slightly dull area of the country, but in a nice house.
Yet often in the evenings when it is quiet, I find myself listening to Moz/Smiths even more than I used to. Not in a positive or appreciative way, but endlessly revisiting Dear God Please Help Me and alike. As long as I keep myself 110% busy with work/home/family issues, the problem isn't too great. As soon as I get a little spare time, I found myself lonely and depressed. But somehow I seem to convert this negative energy into putting even more effort in at work, so far it is going ok.
As a teenager I had very low self esteem and feared rejection greatly. As an adult it is more of a joke now, but I think the underlining issues are still there.
The catalyst for this latest series of long evenings feeling lonely was an excellent business trip I went on with a young female colleague. I would describe her as being only moderately attractive but being funny, intelligent and pleasant to talk to. Absolutely nothing happened between us on the trip, but those evenings eating out and the conversations we ha during long trips in the hire car left me feeling more emotionally stimulated than I remember being in a long while.
I symptom of my teenage condition is probably that I over-emphasize positive attention from women, even now as a married man. Clearly we can only ever be friends at best.
I guess I'm just disappointed that I really haven't moved on from a teenage emotional state in many regards. I can channel loneliness and despondency into positive energy at work and with my family, but if I'm giving anytime alone, I can easily slip back into running emotional what-if through my head time after time - did you make the decision this time?
Listening to Moz/Smiths is an exceptional help to me in these situations because the songs allow me to fully explore these emotions, and give me some sort of closure, at least up until the point at which the mood returns again.
I'm not really expecting any advice, just typing this has been therapy enough for me now.
I’ll run-down my life situation, and why the above shouldn't be a problem.
I'm late 20's, recently married my girlfriend of over the last ten years. We have a baby daughter who in every way is a massive blessing.
I've got a decent education and a decent job. We live in a slightly dull area of the country, but in a nice house.
Yet often in the evenings when it is quiet, I find myself listening to Moz/Smiths even more than I used to. Not in a positive or appreciative way, but endlessly revisiting Dear God Please Help Me and alike. As long as I keep myself 110% busy with work/home/family issues, the problem isn't too great. As soon as I get a little spare time, I found myself lonely and depressed. But somehow I seem to convert this negative energy into putting even more effort in at work, so far it is going ok.
As a teenager I had very low self esteem and feared rejection greatly. As an adult it is more of a joke now, but I think the underlining issues are still there.
The catalyst for this latest series of long evenings feeling lonely was an excellent business trip I went on with a young female colleague. I would describe her as being only moderately attractive but being funny, intelligent and pleasant to talk to. Absolutely nothing happened between us on the trip, but those evenings eating out and the conversations we ha during long trips in the hire car left me feeling more emotionally stimulated than I remember being in a long while.
I symptom of my teenage condition is probably that I over-emphasize positive attention from women, even now as a married man. Clearly we can only ever be friends at best.
I guess I'm just disappointed that I really haven't moved on from a teenage emotional state in many regards. I can channel loneliness and despondency into positive energy at work and with my family, but if I'm giving anytime alone, I can easily slip back into running emotional what-if through my head time after time - did you make the decision this time?
Listening to Moz/Smiths is an exceptional help to me in these situations because the songs allow me to fully explore these emotions, and give me some sort of closure, at least up until the point at which the mood returns again.
I'm not really expecting any advice, just typing this has been therapy enough for me now.