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The Attack on Beauty - Quillette
the problem is that she seems to think that telling a not so physically ideal kid that they're beautiful will lead to narcissism. she's forgetting that there are whole swathes of young girls who are very sensitive about the tiniest thing and that that sensitivity can turn into a paralysing force. the song she mentions, while being a stupid song, is not saying "hey you should be able to be a supermodel no matter what you look like" like she seems to be saying, it's not refuting standards of beauty (i would be the last person to do that, i love models! haha), it's saying "hey there is something in the fact of being human that means that even with flaws and all you're still beautiful and have worth". i mean, that song in my opinion is based on the premise that there are people, young girls or whoever, who need to hear that, not to make them deluded about their own fabulousness, but to correct a negative mindset that lots of young people have about themselves. and that is NOT going to lead to narcissism! but so, we're not supposed to say something that might help someone, because someone might become a little full of themselves. that person was probably going to become full of themselves ANYWAY. as an anecdote, when i was losing heaps of hair due to low ferritin, at the time i didnt know why i was losing it and was afraid that i would go bald completely and a girl at work, much young, cooler and more mature than me, said to me "who cares? you'll still be beautiful". of course i would be no such thing without hair, but the fact of just being told that, that she could say it without sounding absurd, helped immensely. it didnt lead me down a primrose path of narcissism! i mean, correcting a negative mindset and becoming a narcissist are two entirely different things, not even on the same spectrum. and also her insisting that a human person can only be beautiful according to some ideal standards i would disagree with as well. i mean, yes, there are ideal standards but there is more than one way to regard a person. i mean, for one thing a person has motion. a person is not an object, like a vase that doesnt have motion. a body in motion is a very different thing than a body at rest, and can be rendered beautiful by it's movements if they have grace or confidence or whatever. and then she's also saying that thinking we're all beautiful is somehow going to diminish the experience of real ideal beauty, which is wrong too. i spent a lot of time looking at models when i was young and the thing that they say happens when you look at models or celebrities too long and suddenly you start to judge everyone around you more harshly compared to them, the opposite of that happened! i judged people LESS harshly. because you see models with features that dont conform to the ideal standards, models with big noses and close set eyes, and asymmetric smiles, or whatever and you realize that beauty is a thing that coexists with flaws, that has it's own reality and that refuses conditions to be placed upon it, and what's more, it's generous: it doesnt care how many other people you think are beautiful, however erroneously, it doesnt become diminished, it doesnt mind being shared. anyway, that's the sort of thing i wanted to talk about (but would be much more clear and fully formed and well written and insightful if i were to take the time to actually think about! (becuase i would have a LOT to say and it's all just a jumble in my mind right now)). but no matter, im sure once i have a blog i will find endless amounts of things to write about!
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