Re: You're welcome.
> I don't think I'm unusually hard on myself. I just try to be a
> good person, which can be a hard thing to do.
I think everyone of us try to be a good person, and of course this is hard. That's the point...
> To me, the most important thing is to be honest with yourself,
> which begins with calling things by their rightful names. If
> someone spits in your eye and you're burning with anger and a
> desire to spit back in theirs, don't call it justice.
This is not a matter of "justice". This is just "instinct". When you feel that someone wants to hurt you, you just need to react.
That's
> called revenge. And then, you can ask yourself if revenge is
> something that you consider right or wrong, virtuous or not.
WRONG!!!!!!!!... I would not stop a single moment to think about it.
If
> you're honest with yourself, you'll see that most of the time,
> anger is totally irrational and senseless.
Irrational??? YES... Senseless??? YES. But I want to believe that I'm not a machine, and I have a heart, and blood in my veins.
It's just a strange
> and primal thing within us all, but it's worthless. It causes so
> many problems in our society when expressed or dealt with poorly
> because revenge just leads to revenge, which just leads to
> revenge, which just leads to revenge. I honestly believe that
> through honesty and intelligence, a person can short-circuit a
> lot of immediate anger that so often grows out of control in
> people. You think it controls you, but when you understand it,
> you begin controlling it.
It depends of you experiences, your mental files, and lots of different things, but this is basiclly a "primal thing", I agree.
> I don't think it's about being too emotional, or weak, or
> whatever. I think it's always about not understanding the nature
> of your anger.
Sometimes the nature of your anger is in front of your eyes, and it is completlly obvious. I'm inclined to have intense feelings, and I often say what I feel. If I want to express my anger,,,or whatever,...I do it in front of that person, and then I forget. Or I come back and say"I'm sorry". Sometimes "I'm sorry"is not enough, but I'm not a saint, and I never met a saint in my life.
For me personally, it's about trying to come as
> close as possible to who I'd like to be. Of course that ideal
> person is different for us all, but for me, that ideal person is
> kind and understanding although unwavering in her beliefs. I
> know who I'd like to be and I try every day to be more and more
> like her. I always fall short, but I think the growing process
> in life is that progress and growth towards meeting your own
> ideal. If this development within me is arrested, then I would
> consider my life as standing still, as being wasted to a large
> degree.
We can follow different "models" in our life. As a painter, I guess I would like to be like Van Gogh, or Caravaggio ( did you see that movie directed by Derek J. ??)
> I think that's true for us all, especially those of us who have
> more sore spots in our memories. But I also think that, no
> matter what, we're responsible for the results of our actions
> regardless of what the causes of our actions were.
It reminds me the word "karma".
> True, but I try not to have my realizations *after* I've done
> the damage.
Hmmm, I think this is nice of your part, but almost impossible... at least for me. I remember those wonderful Shakespeare's characters, and their inner fights. He was a master to describe our feelings. We can be good, bad, unfeeling, and many other things. It depends of the moment... the day... the person... etc...
> Why is Audrey gone? Because I've posted so many pictures of her
> on this board, I've just about run out. In a way, it was good
> that someone asked me to stop putting them up. I was going to
> stop anyway. It really is too bad though. My messages look so
> plain now.
Who asked you to stop? ...Audrey is a symbol of dignity and beauty. And her work on unesco was so important, especially because she was a star, and I'm sure that she was able to make her fans, and the whole world "to think about being kind hearted". What's your favorite Audrey's movie??
> Kisses,
> Cili
Hey... hope you have a wonderful xmas, ok??? I'm gonna travel to a town by the sea, where I will join my family. That's the first xmas without my dogfriend. She was named Chai, and she died about, hmmm, 3 months, I guess. I miss her a lot.
Hugs
