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As all parents probably know, in their early childhood children discover that touching their genitals gives them pleasurable sensations. Sometimes they rub on the edge of their bed or other furniture. My question is, how should a parent react? And how did you react, if you're a parent? Below is a post from another forum that really made me angry. I emphasized some particularly outrageous parts.
"My daughter did it at the age of three. Of course, I was desperate. Everyone told me it was normal, it was just a phase, but when it's your child of course you don't think it's normal and look at it with a smile.
I tried to tell her that princesses don't do that, that it's shameful, but it didn't work. Then I consulted a psychologist, who told me to explain to her that girls don't do that. I didn't know how to make her stop without making it a stressful experience for her, so I started telling her that if she kept doing it I'd have to give away her dresses and skirts because she wouldn't be wearing them again because was acting like a boy. After a couple of days, it worked. I haven't noticed her doing it for 3 or 4 months, and neither has her teacher.
Honestly, I don't know how a 3 year old kid can find it "stressful" if you forbid her to do it. I really think we're taking children's rights too far and we condone all kinds of behaviour, with excuse that it's just a phase. I think it's better to forbid it than let her develop that habit, like I've seen children who made me and others uncomfortable in public."
As all parents probably know, in their early childhood children discover that touching their genitals gives them pleasurable sensations. Sometimes they rub on the edge of their bed or other furniture. My question is, how should a parent react? And how did you react, if you're a parent? Below is a post from another forum that really made me angry. I emphasized some particularly outrageous parts.
"My daughter did it at the age of three. Of course, I was desperate. Everyone told me it was normal, it was just a phase, but when it's your child of course you don't think it's normal and look at it with a smile.
I tried to tell her that princesses don't do that, that it's shameful, but it didn't work. Then I consulted a psychologist, who told me to explain to her that girls don't do that. I didn't know how to make her stop without making it a stressful experience for her, so I started telling her that if she kept doing it I'd have to give away her dresses and skirts because she wouldn't be wearing them again because was acting like a boy. After a couple of days, it worked. I haven't noticed her doing it for 3 or 4 months, and neither has her teacher.
Honestly, I don't know how a 3 year old kid can find it "stressful" if you forbid her to do it. I really think we're taking children's rights too far and we condone all kinds of behaviour, with excuse that it's just a phase. I think it's better to forbid it than let her develop that habit, like I've seen children who made me and others uncomfortable in public."
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